Anger has gotten a bad rap. Like all emotions, anger gives us important information--specifically that something needs to be changed. It is how anger is expressed that can be the problem. Nothing good will come of someone expressing anger with aggressive volume, tone (scorn or sarcasm), language (cursing) or action. However, if one expresses his anger firmly and--if need be, sets appropriate limits, anger can be used to enhance relationships. Ex. of anger expressed aggressively: Parent with a scornful, incredulous tone telling his teenager, "I can't believe you're always yelling at me....I would never do that to my parents." Ex. of anger addressed beneficially: Parent, with a neutral tone, telling his teenager, "I get that you're upset with me, but I don't want you yelling at me. If you can bring your volume down, I will listen to your complaint and hopefully we can work something out." And if the teenager continues to speak disrespectfully to his father, the limit-setting response would be, "You're not respecting my request, so I'm removing myself from the conversation. We can try again later."