COUPLES FEEL TURNED OFF because they start to feel emotionally pushed away and shut down with each other. This often happens so gradually that partners tolerate it and they slowly become used to it. Becoming "roommates", "best friends", or "pals" is common but it isn't enough to sustain an intimate relationship. Over time it erodes all the passion, fun, flirting and adult sexuality you once nourished each other with. Your relationship will be "at risk" if you and your partner settle!

  • Do you feel less attraction and desire?
  • Is sex a chore, a pressure, or obligation?
  • Do you feel irritated because you're bored?
  • Does your partner expect sex on demand?
  • Are you turned off but feel guilty about it?

COUPLES LOSE THE FEELING of being "lovers"  because they fall into relationship patterns that they are unaware of.  All they know is they feel more distant. These patterns are very different from the patterns they started off with! Sometimes this happens after children enter into the mix when their relationship changes dramatically! Sometimes it's just a slow chipping away of the feelings until they just feel turned off and shut down sexually!  Needy sexual demands actually cause this and it can be reversed!  A partner making these demands often feels stuck because it becomes their only way to have sex. It's a vicious cycle they both lose out in. 

ROOMMATES AND BEST FRIENDS ISN'T ENOUGH! Today married couples miss the  romantic, passionate, flirty, fun, turned on feelings that lovers have. When married couples become roommates and best friends they have lost interest in each other as lovers!  This is caused by immature sexual issues and tools will help you get the spark back, no matter what age or phase of life you're in!  

TOOLS ARE IMPORTANT to make deep enough changes. Talk therapy tries to fix the symptoms without getting to the underlying cause. Too often couples are told to date and given other quick fixes. This is a good idea but the problem is if you already feel like "roommates" then you go on dates feeling like "friends not lovers" with each other.  Don't settle!


Dr Catherine Wheeler
Corona , Ca 92879